feat(12.1-01): list row states from one controller call per page

- pact.ListRowStates with the fixed RowState set deleted, negative, disabled
- list response meta.row_states keyed by row id; unknown values dropped
- list messages rowStateDeleted, rowStateNegative, rowStateDisabled
- update writes through the scope the load used, so a soft-deleted record
  a controller includes stays soft-deleted
- DataTable row state badges and text styles
- roster fixture, smoke tests, OpenAPI, TS types, dist, READMEs, docs

modules/cabana/crud.go

@@ -564,7 +564,10 @@ func (s CRUDService) save(ctx context.Context, cc *CompiledController, id any, i
 			return err
 		}
 		if update {
-			err = tx.Save(target).Error
+			// The row write uses the scope the load used: a soft-deleted
+			// record the controller's FormExtendQuery includes (Winter's
+			// withTrashed) is updated in place and stays soft-deleted.
+			err = tx.Unscoped().Save(target).Error
 		} else {
 			err = tx.Create(target).Error
 		}